Remember the last time you got into a argument or a fight with your significant other? Wasn't that frustrating? Was that even necessary? Ain't it ironic that before that day everything was just lovely and yet within the next moment , a harmonious relationship turned suddenly rocky?
The Truth
Before digging out past and start argument all day long, take a closer look at what happens and you will observed some argument pattern.
Being the cry baby
At the one point of the argument, one is the calm and another one turn into this situation , crying. That person becomes several emotional and defensive , and often they will regret what they have said later.
Attention , Acknowledge.
When we cry , all we want was attention or acknowledge and care from the significant other.
Right or Wrong.
We will often come to this stage when we have argument , there's always be someone giving in and another not, but due to egos , there's always disagreement, and always having a strong urge to prove to the other person
Selfish.
We will never understand why would your partner will never sympathize. The more we express ourselves, the less they seem to even bother, because in their mind it's always why should i listen to you when you don't.
The Solutions
We are always going to have different opinions and there is always everyone has days where their emotions was not in the best state but the problem lies in the way we handle the situation and is our egos get in our way? Are you willing to put down your egos for this relationship and talking nicely to your partner.
Is your relationship stronger than the problem?
The following pointers is proven to be effective in relationship
Awareness - being aware of the situation ,be the observer of your thoughts and ask yourself
- What is it I want at this moment?
- Will getting what I want help me become a better person?
- Will getting what I want bring happiness to the relationship?
Try on the different shoes
Imagine yourself in your partner's shoes and think about how they really feel when you express your emotional.
I guess there is always time for you to put down your egos and think about it maybe what you get will just make the argument the next level and you will feel frustrating and wondering why your partner ain't giving in and you realize actually you were the one started the whole situation. Nobody out there's prefect for each other if not we don't have to keep finding the right ones.
